I know I have been completely MIA for the last few weeks, but I have a good reason. I got married! My honey and I have been planning our dream celebration all summer and it finally came to fruition last week in beautiful Los Gatos, California.
There are a lot of things I wish I had known going into the whole wedding planning experience...
One, Pinterest (and other platforms where people share their impossible to achieve fairy tale pictures) is like crack for to-be-brides. Stay away from that sh*t or you will seriously drive yourself crazy and even the most beautiful wedding will never live up to your expectations.
Second, you can't do this alone. Whether you hire a wedding planner or team (which we didn't) or rely on your family and friends to make everything come together (which we totally did), you are going to need some strong players in your corner.
Finally, in the end, all that really matters is that YOUR experience (and your partner's) is positive. Sure you want your guests to have a good time, but if everything you do is for other people and not your own enjoyment and satisfaction, you end up with a hollow, disappointed feeling when it's all over.
So why am I sharing all this sage wedding advice with you? Because as I was thinking about what makes for a good relationship with your wedding, I realized the very same principles could apply to your relationship with your body. Pretty cool right?
So the top three take aways?
1. Don't compare your body to others or try to make your reality match other people's fantasies. It's not healthy, fun, and usually not even possible.
2. Taking care of your body and loving yourself is not something you can do alone in a vacuum. We NEED supportive people who believe in us and want us to be healthy and happy (not body bashers) to keep us on the right track.
3. At the end of the day, your happiness is the number one goal. Not fitting into a size 2 or having a slightly flatter stomach, or getting accolades from other people about how great you look now that you finally lost those last 10 pounds.
As for those 10 pounds I accidentally lost leading up to the wedding? I was determined not to diet before my wedding like so many brides do. I didn't want to cut out bread or sugar or eat only raw food or do a juice cleanse. I just wanted to be present to what was happening and trust that the size of my body would not make or break the wedding.
I focused on feeling good, moving my body in fun ways, eating food I love, spending time with friends, relaxing, connecting with my babe and when the wedding rolled around I was surprised to discover that I had actually lost weight. Whoops.
Now let's hear what you think! If you're already married, what was the wedding planning process like for you? Do you have any regrets? For unmarried ladies, what are you most worried about when it comes to planning your wedding?
I can't wait to hear what you have to say!
P.P.S. As promised, here are some of my favorite pics from our wedding. :)